Updated: Aug 20, 2021
According to https://www.selfhelpdaily.com/how-to-be-happy-3/ 45,000,000 Google "How to be happy" monthly. Think about it, when people ask us what we want for our kid's future, what do many say. I just want them to be happy.
The problem is, most of the people are not happy half the time. Then we make that a problem. If you wake up in a bad mood, or sad, anxious, angry, the list could go on, we make it mean something has gone terribly wrong.
Why? Because we think we should be happy all the time and if we aren't, there is a serious problem that must be fixed. Then we compound the negative emotions and make them much, much worse.
Ever got more anxious about being anxious? Mad at yourself because you are angry. Sad and frustrated that you are sad and frustrated. When we aren't accepting of the negative emotions, we make them bigger.
We aren't looking at them and wondering what they are trying to share with us. What they are doing for us. Why that is the perfect emotion to be feeling at that time, and we should show them gratitude because, without them, we wouldn't know what it was like to feel good.
What if I told you that you are only supposed to feel positive emotion half the time? How are you doing with a score of 50% positive and 50% negative. Is your balance off.
Consider that you are too often resisting or judging the negative emotions, therefore, making them stay around longer, throwing off your ratio. Is the secret to more happiness, allowing the emotions we don't consider happy?