I couldn't trust myself. This was my biggest problem. I could not keep a promise to myself. If I said I was going to do something, the likelihood it was going to happen was so low it was very sad. Not only was it sad, it made me sad. It made me depressed.
I felt like I wasn't a valuable person. I could do things for other people, but if the only person I was letting down was me, then forget it. It just wasn't going to happen. I'm sure many people with ADHD can relate to this.
Our executive function skills are lacking, so it's already hard to get started or plan well enough to have what we need to do something. Or are we organized enough to know where the things we need are?
If we do get started on that thing we said we would do, we often see something else that needs to be done and make that a priority instead, and the next thing and the next thing.
I really thought it would always be this way, and the thought of that left me wondering what I could even make of myself in this world. Then I learned something. Did you know that keeping promises to yourself is a skill?
No, really, when you don't keep a promise to yourself it doesn't have to mean you are a terrible person or that you never do what you say you will do. It doesn't make you morally wrong. You just have not kept enough promises to yourself to learn the skill of doing so.
And oh happy day when you do it enough to have the confidence that you WILL do that thing you said you would do. That you can depend on yourself. That you have got your own back, and damn does that feel good.
That is why you see me show up here on Instagram three times a day. That is why you see me write a blog post every day. That is why you see me make a video every week for my YouTube channel.
It goes further than that. That is why I exercise, that is why I don't eat when I'm not hungry. This gets the project done I don't want to do, but I'm glad I did it. This helps me to commit to the education I need for my business.
If you can build this one skill, you are unstoppable! Let me help you build that skill of doing what you say you are going to do. I've been in the place of not being able to trust myself, and I know how painful that is. I've got you. Book a consultation call with me. Click the button below.